I have chosen a couple of my favorite pictures to share with you that I think embody the spirit of my mother. She was always very encouraging of my creativity and imagination. She would play with my brother and me for hours, whatever stupid game we wanted to play, whether it was candy land or something we made up! She loved for us to brush her hair and put make up on her. For some reason she actually found this relaxing!
My mother truly enjoyed her children. She loved playing with us, cooking supper for us, reading to us at bedtime.
She has never “mothered” us out of obligation or guilt. She has enjoyed being our mother and it shows! What a blessing to know that you are loved and enjoyed by your mother!
Not long after that, my mother purchased flash cards of letters and their sounds. I spent the evenings sitting at the bar across from the stove, going through my flash cards while Mama would cook dinner. I would hold up a card and ask her, “What sound does this letter make?” then repeat it after her. That’s how I learned to read, and once I started to school, I sat at the same bar to do my homework every night. When I didn’t understand something, I would ask her for help, just like I did when I was learning to read. I'm so grateful to have a mother who made sure to give me the tools I needed to be successful in life.
That bar is not only the place I learned how to read. Sometimes, I would sit at the bar and just talk to her and watch her cook, even if I didn’t have any homework. I do have some specific memories, like watching her make chili or fry canned biscuits into doughnuts, but mostly I remember the feeling of being connected to my Mama and her cooking. I suppose that bar is where I first began to learn how to cook. And to this day, when I make one of my Mama’s recipes, I feel that connection.
When my husband and I decided to build our home, I made sure that the plan we chose had a bar looking into our kitchen. At the time, I only had one little boy, but I wanted to know that he and any future babies we had would be able to grow up sitting there and connect with me.